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Having concertized on stage as an anxious performer and off stage and as a therapist who enjoys working with individuals who are anxious with performance anxiety, I bring a wealth of experience and compassion to help with your concerns. 

If your anxiety about performing in public prevents you from putting your best self forward—from enjoying yourself and getting ahead in your career (whether it is music, business, mental health, education, athletics, or social anxiety)—I welcome the opportunity to work with you.


Focused Performance Anxiety Mentoring is a unique series of private sessions that are designed around your specific performance stress. It is focused on identifying your strengths and engaging in problem-solving strategies to lower performance anxiety.  FPAM is not psychotherapy;  it is a focused series of sessions that deal specifically with your performance anxiety.


Focused Performance Anxiety Mentoring helps you:

:: identify your performance goals

:: recognize how you currently deal with performance anxiety (what works? What doesn’t?)

:: design a program to apply healthy strategies to  better manage your performance anxiety

:: help you identify roadblocks and assist you in overcoming them

:: ongoing assessment of your progress toward  lowering your performance anxiety and moving toward your goals

Performance anxiety is very democratic in that it can affect people of all ages and  all professions. Performance anxiety is a powerful combination of feelings and life experiences that accompany you onto the stage,  into the board room,  or classroom, job interview, exam room, or any number of situations where you feel you are being judged and evaluated.  Performance anxiety affects you when you wish to be most competent and in control. Many people practice, prepare, and study harder and longer hours with the idea that “practice makes perfect”.


Many people who perform in public or feel under the spotlight at work worry about being observed and judged negatively. They try hard to give a “perfect” performance. Being under the spotlight brings out many fears which are not helpful to successful performances.


Performance opportunities do put you in the limelight, under observation of others, and most importantly, tap into your own sense of self-confidence and self-worth. Live performance is spontaneous and of the moment – but this also means there are factors you often cannot control through more intense practice and study. This does not mean that preparation is not important. Certainly, good preparation and study is assumed. But performance anxiety mocks good preparation – and as many of you have experienced, your emotions can override what your brain knows it has prepared.


What you can learn to control is your attitude. Your attitude influences your ability to be flexible and confident so you can handle your performance – including the unexpected things that can, and often do, occur.


I enjoy helping my clients increase their sense of control and help them be the best they can be during both predictable and unpredictable moments. Frankly, there is no such thing as a “perfect performance." There is, however, performance confidence.


Focused Performance Anxiety Mentoring can occur in my office or by telephone.


It is normal to experience performance anxiety. Anxiety exists on a continuum. It is possible to have anxiety that is debilitating or facilitating. Performance anxiety can be experienced emotionally and/or physically.  

Performance anxiety symptoms include: shaking, sweating, self-doubts, concern about what others think, worry about forgetting, avoidance, headaches, sleeping too much  - or insomnia, stomach aches, irritability, relationship problems, trying too hard to please others, excessive worry about what others think of you, judging yourself based on your performance.


Performance anxiety seeds take root in childhood and unfortunately, they sprout in public. Your attitude is as important as your aptitude in performing.


If you answer “yes” to 3 or more of the following statements, you would benefit from my mentoring program.


1. Anxiety is chronic regarding performances, speaking, tests, writing, social situations

2. You compare yourself unfavorably with others

3. You worry what others think of you as a primary measure of your success

4. Anxiety interferes with your professional and/or personal life

5. You find excuses to avoid preparation and practice

6. Rational problem-solving and common sense  answers don’t  provide relief

7. Medication does not provide desired relief

8. You focus more on your mistakes than your accomplishments

9. You find it difficult to enjoy what you are doing

Contact Me Today

to setup a free phone consultation and learn more about how my mentoring programs can help you.